In this short-form episode of Tapped In, we dive into the “Nobody Tells You This About Jiu-Jitsu, But They Should” post. We’ll cover the many unwritten rules and approaches that can make your experience within Jiu-Jitsu easier.
What You’ll Learn:
Skill Over Belts
Understanding Progress
Coachability
One Quote to Reflect On:
"Not everything in Jiu-Jitsu is taught—some things you’re expected to feel, observe, and figure out in silence." – Unknown
Hope you enjoyed the article and the audio companion. I’m looking forward to continuing a these. Both for the growth of Substack but also for own personal development.
Thank you,
David Figueroa-Martinez
Founder, DFM Coaching
Coach | Writer | Grappler
DFM Coaching is dedicated to helping you overcome mental hurdles and achieve your full potential in BJJ. Whether through in-person instruction, seminars, private lessons, remote coaching, or video analysis, I provide personalized support tailored to your needs. Keep pushing forward, and let’s grow together!
🔊 EPISODE 1: “Why Tapping is a Skill, Not a Shame”
Rewiring how you view loss, pain, and quitting
• Reframe tapping as a decision, not a defeat
• Learn why pain is feedback—not failure
• Discover how the tap protects your longevity and growth
🔊 EPISODE 2: “From Proving to Improving”
Outgrowing gym performance anxiety
• Stop rolling to impress and start rolling with intent
• Let go of fear-driven intensity and chase progress
• Build quiet confidence rooted in awareness, not approval
🔊 EPISODE 3: “Respect Doesn’t Mean Submission”
How to train assertively and kindly
• Stand your ground while being a safe partner
• Hold standards when no one’s watching
• Build a balanced training style—push hard, protect spirits
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